Whilst no story is the same, there are some shared themes running through the stories I hear, which include:

• Questioning your identity. Wondering who you are and what purpose you attach to your life, if you don’t have the family that you envisioned.
• Experiencing relationship issues with your partner. You might be grieving in different ways, aren’t communicating as well as you used to, or can’t agree on what decisions to make.
• Feeling left behind in your friendship circles, ‘stuck on the outside looking in’.
• Battling heavy, complex emotions such as shame, guilt, anger, resentment, envy, despair or emptiness, but you can’t express this in front of others for fear of being judged.
• Alone and isolated, with few people able to truly understand what you’re going through.
• Unable to live in the present, with one foot constantly stuck in the past or future.
• Worrying about worst case scenarios and battling intrusive thoughts.
• Under pressure, emotionally, biologically and financially.
• Disconnected from your loved ones, work…yourself, even.

Some of this may be familiar, some of it may not.  A client recently said “Could we talk about “other things” as well?”  Of course!  Pregnancy loss rarely comes in isolation and this is a space for you to use, and bring what is most important to you.  

I do this work because I too have known something of the devastation, a pregnancy ending with no baby to bring home can bring – but the focus of the sessions will always be you.